I m Sharing My Infertility Story To Let Others Know They re Not Alone
|The Huffington Post 23 Jun 2017 at 16:44|
Admitting that my husband and I can t reproduce on our own has been a crushing blow. I m loathe to admit it, but in the past I d be the first one to dish out the well-meaning advice: Eliminate inflammatory foods, eat more healthy fats, get regular acupuncture, always keep your feet warm, stop using bleached tampons, cut out caffeine and definitely try to relax (which any woman trying to conceive will tell you is the absolute worst thing to hear, ever).
We are in the middle of our first IVF cycle after three failed IUI cycles, one miscarriage and almost two years trying to conceive.
This journey has humbled me beyond anything. I never imagined I d be posting a pre-surgery selfie in hospital scrubs looking like a scared animal about to go under general anesthesia for a procedure on my uterus.
The fact is, you cannot solve every fertility problem with a daily cocktail of Hawaiian spirulina, dandelion greens and inositol. Your dedicated meditation practice will not manifest you a baby. No matter how much acupuncture you do, or how pristine your paleo/gluten/dairy-free organic diet is, or how many naturopath recommended supplements you take – infertility still happens.
We are in the middle of our first IVF cycle after three failed IUI cycles, one miscarriage and almost two years trying to conceive. Being the patient instead of the health coach has been a new, often painful journey, but it has also taught me so much.
1) When in the past I might have immediately offered advice to "fix" the problem, I now understand the true gift of listening. No well meaning suggestions, no judgement. Just listen.