This Is Why Parents Should Establish Family Routines
|The Huffington Post 05 Jan 2018 at 10:49|
If you want more namaste in your family life, my recommendation is that you put your energies into tackling better family routines. I consider this to be one of the master skills of parenting, and it s so worth the investment! Here are the top pointers on why routines are important and how to set them up and enforce them.
Why routines are so important
Routines are predictable and consistent, which make us feel safe. First we hang up coats, then we put our boots on the mat and then we wash our hands before snack. We are safe! In doing so, we can predict what happens next and we know what we re supposed to do. There are no surprises nor potential dangers now that we know this sequence, so now we can relax and turn off our stress response.
According to a 2012 study published in the journal Sage,
And researchers at the University of Louisville, Columbia University, New York University, and Virginia Polytechic Institute found that the more chaotic a family s life is (in which household chaos is defined by disorganization, lack of routine, excessive noise, crowdedness, and an overly fast pace), the more likely their kids will encounter a string of issues, including smaller vocabularies, lower IQs, more stress, higher levels of aggression, poorer sleep patterns, less positive relationships with parents and siblings, and worse overall health.
The reality is that most of us default to the routine of yelling at the kids to get out of the damn bath, beg them to put on their pyjamas, and then negotiate on whether we read one or 10 bedtime stories. The fact is, we as parents are largely inconsistent and unpredictable in establishing and maintaining routines, and our children s bad behaviour proves this.